Happy Birthday Mom and Dad!

Yes, my mom and dad have the same birthdays.

Days like these are when its hard to be away from home. My mom and I aren’t just mom and daughter – we’re much closer to best friends nowadays. She likes to say that me, my sister and she all lived in different lifetimes together which is where our close bond comes from. We just happened to be reincarnated as a family this time around. We are all eerily in tune with each other, and I am so grateful to have such an amazing group of women.

A couple of weeks ago, my mom was heading to her car after getting a pedicure and she was hit by a car. She laughed it off as if it were nothing, her first thought being “Oh, God, I hope I haven’t ruined my pedicure.” (An obvious first thought for any woman who just got a pedicure, and there is fear of it being smudged.) She went home, propped her feet up and went on with her day. However, further tests prove that its worse than she originally thought.  There are fractures and torn ligaments, and she has to take, at the least, a month off work.

It could be worse. And, for that, we are grateful. However, it’s just another reminder that we can’t take any day for granted for it can all change in an instant. I love her to death, and wish I could be there to celebrate her – ah hem – <insert year here> birthday. Love you Momma, and can’t wait to see you soon!.

My Dad and I have never lived together – not even in the same city. I had the opportunity to go to high school in Mexico City, like my sister did, to get an International Bac from their British school system, and live with my dad. However, I had just gotten into Baltimore School for the Arts as a Theatre Major, and Theatre was my number one priority. (Sorry, Dad!). Mexico City’s high school didn’t have a theatre class, so I wasn’t moving.

He traveled a lot when we were children to various countries, cities, and I would wait eagerly by the mailbox for his letters. They came often and, in those days, were handwritten or sometimes typed on a typewriter! Emails didn’t exist and a computer was hard to come by, so real mail was the only way to go. He would send keepsakes as well – like a doll with wooden shoes from Holland or a bracelet he bought when he was in Germany. I still have most of the letters and keepsakes – packed away in a trunk in Baltimore or Charlie’s house in Long Beach. I have boxes with my memories scattered all over the country.

I still look forward to his emails. He now lives in Guadalajara. Dad, I hope you’re having a fantastic OLD man’s birthday. Cause let’s face it, you’re getting pretty old. ;) Love you.

Love to both my parents! Wish I could be there!!

Festivities

3:33PM began festive day of birthday celebrations for Jocko’s 33rd. Cold had set in bones and shivering took good part of hour to drown out. Pint of Foster’s shandy helped soothe muscles and convulsions. Two work buddies and one television accountant joined in the first point of pub crawl once sun began to set over the Avon Gorge. One work buddy finished plate of steaming overly cheesy Nachos that I had left to the side unfinished.

Second pub was true gentleman’s hole in the wall. Fire barely making a dent in the frozen air, and small dog hogging any warmth that may have oozed out. Big sign reads “Don’t Feed Dog.” Conversation over meaning of the term “Catalan” takes quarter of hour to complete. Mate forces Jock to drink Moonshine for his seconds. I stay on beer.

Purple polo shirt enters and takes his seat next to Jock’s. Greetings are manly and jovial.

Feeling happy, warmer and excited for what will come.

Wife of work mate is about to leave from where she is with baby – the Royal Oak pub down the street. He asks if we want to see the new 8 week old. We leave hole in wall, briskly and effervescently pump through city ten minutes to find next stop. Crawling is not what we’re doing. Pub leap is more like it. Baby is fast asleep in corner of steamed up boozer. Five percent of drinking population in this one equals women. I am becoming less and less of a minority believe it or not.

Carolers enter outside scene in gloves, hats and scarves singing songs I never knew existed and in angelic tones, and I am thrown into English romanticized version of what it is like for Christmas. Mulled wine must be next drink of choice to complete idolized dream. It is warm, fruity, smoky and everything I hoped this drink would be. Will definitely be having more. No one can bring me down from this festive spirit that has taken over. I kiss Jock to make sure this is all real.

Pubs start blending into one. Friends of Jock’s enter and exit throughout night graciously kissing on cheeks and commenting on my new hair. Jock gets more and more cards to put into my small purse. Night ends in kebab take away joint – after all, we hadn’t had a thing since the Nachos at 3:33PM.

To top off the Christmas feeling, after the rest of England has been hit by snowstorm after snowstorm, Bristol has remained dry. That is, until midnight last night. The view from our yard this morning:

The Lifestyle Change Diet

Birthday week has thoroughly ruined my running and dieting. Isn’t that what it’s supposed to do?!

We have a system. Call it what you will – OCD, controlling, anal – but it works and we have lost weight from it and are maintaining it, and still are able to eat what we want.

If I eat under or just on 1,500 calories, then I get a check mark for that day (Jock has 2,300 calories). If I go above that, I get a big fat X on that day.  Jock and I do this everyday, and have done for the last 16 weeks. We average about one or two X’s a week.  Looking back over the last month – well, let’s just say there is a lot of red and a lot of X’s.

Luckily, the measurements happened last week, and I have only gained one pound and have actually lost half an inch from my waist – how?  I have no idea.

Received package of Berger Cookies complete with ingredients for a Lemon Jello Cake from my mom today! So bad, but sooooo good.  Lemon Jello Cake is my absolute favorite and I will post pictures once I bake it.

149 pages of book done!

Birthdays birthdays and more birthdays

August is apparently the most popular month for birthdays (and if WikiAnswers says it is, than you know it’s true) – meaning lots of parties in August.

Last weekend, Jocko and I headed up to London to visit my friend Gemma for her 28th.  We partied late and danced our tookushes off. Here are some photos:

Jocko and MALThe London CrewThe London Ladies

This weekend, Jock and I are heading to the Brecon Beacons in Wales which is a National Park (camping, hiking, kayaking, caving!) for my birthday. I really can’t wait to get out in the wilderness, pitch a tent and get back to the Earth. This is what I picture it will be like – rain! Although, honestly, I don’t care.  I don’t mind if I get muddy, wet and smell bad because I will be one with nature, damn it!

I opted not to bring any make up, but Jock said we may be going to pubs for dinner so kindly assured me that I will probably want to take some at least. Ouch. I guess it is what I feared all along – I look like a monster underneath all that finely applied concealer. At least I won’t have to look at myself!

In all honesty, he just said that because he knows how I will not leave the house without at least mascara on – never have never will.  I guess mascara is my version of my Grandmother’s red lipstick.

It does make you wonder though about that first time you bravely show your naked face to the man you love – wondering if he cringed or shuddered…and I say it’s brave because it’s freaking scary. Horror stories of screams and a gasp invade your thoughts; worries of waking up to a note scribbled “I thought I loved you until I saw your naked face. You’re not the woman I thought you were dot dot dot”; and fears of the zit on your chin talking and coercing him to find someone else with a clear face.  I may have moved to NY at the age of 19 with $35 in my pocket, white water rafted in Colorado and traveled through Eastern Europe on a train by myself – but baring my large pores, short eyelashes, mole, and pale skin to him was the ultimate risk.

Ah well, he’s still here, isn’t he? Can’t be that bad (wink wink).

I also didn’t want to shower all weekend, but Jock said there would be facilities to do that as well – can’t a girl just get a break and smell and look bad for one weekend? I understand though, because I wouldn’t want to sleep next to me sans shower either.

So, wish us luck – pray for good weather and blue skies, and scary pictures to follow next week…